Need A Nanny

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I was not able to find my Mary Poppins (read this if you want a more descriptive post of the position ) last time but I have not given up hope...

I am looking for a nanny for my disabled triplets.  They just turned five years old.  Please read the About Us tab to understand the children and their disabilities.  The caregiver must be at least 24.  From experience, so far,  people who are younger are not able to handle the stress of dealing with the children nor have the patience required.

The children have a schedule and you must follow the schedule. No changes to the schedule are to be made with prior authorization from me.  You need to know how to plan homeschool activities. You must be able to clean and prepare meals as needed along with cleaning the messes made by the children at the end of your day.

I am looking for someone who can drive.  You need to have the ability to take the children to private therapy and doctor appointments.

I need someone with a fingerprint clearance card so I know you have undergone a background check.

The hours I am looking for someone from  9am to 3pm from Monday to Friday.  These hours may increase due to work and other conditions.  So I need someone with some flexibility in their work schedule.

I am located in the Gilbert area near Gilbert High School.  The pay I am looking at is about $200 per week.  Do not apply if you are not comfortable with the pay.  I am a worker for the state of Arizona so I do not make much income and I do not get much in child support so $200 is about the limit of what I can pay.

My children are great kids.  They are loving and fun.  They need someone with high energy and can keep them engaged and busy throughout the day.  You will have to repeat things over and over again to them and be able to deal with a lot of noise  (you cannot tell them to sit still and be quiet all day...it will NOT happen!).    If you think you can do these things please email me your resume at murigheal72@yahoo.com

Thanks!

Things ARE Falling Into Place!!!

I am SO excited.  I finally got computer access at work.  Seriously, it was painful all the waiting this week! All I have been doing at work is reading material on HOW to do my job.  I am hoping to start next week to ACTUALLY get started learning my job.  I can't wait!

The housing situation...  I am ecstatic to report it looks like I have a hard lead on a house! It is in Gilbert near McQueen and Elliot.  The house is in a SUPER nice area and zoned for a nice school.  It is a place where the children and I can settle down and live comfortably for YEARS!  It has been SO long since I have had a house where I can stay for awhile.  The rent is affordable.  The house is spacious and has a nice backyard. The backyard is enclosed with a small covered patio area AND grass!  There are few homes in the Phoenix area I have seen that have grass.  Most have rock or dirt.  This one HAS grass!  The home is own by a property management company.  I had to fill out an application and sign it in blood (not really but it felt like I should have).  I had to ask my dad to put down money on this house and to co-sign for me since I do not have a recent work history.  So far it all looks good.  If I get this house I will be SO happy!

Babysitter/Nanny situation...  I am happy to report that Bailey may be moving in with me if I get this house.  I have also found a lady that can take the children for me too.  She runs a daycare in her home but she currently is not taking care of any children.  This is PERFECT for me.  For one thing the children are a handful all by themselves.  The second is that Joseph cannot be around a lot of other children since he could get sick.  Great situation.  This lady, Jennifer, is also older (my age and not 18), has raised children of her own and thinks taking my children would be FUN because it would be INTERESTING!  How AWESOME is that?  LOL   She says this now.  What until she meets them...lol.  Jennifer also lives close to the possible house making that situation even better!  Jennifer can drive and is willing to drive the children to their doctor and therapy appointments if I can keep them close by.  So my thought is that Bailey can live with me.  I can get up super early and go to work.  Bailey and the children can sleep.  Once they are up Baily can wash the children, get them dressed and make breakfast.  Once they are fed Bailey can call Jennifer and she would come and get them for the rest of the day until I can come and get them.  Not a bad idea I think!

So job situation is improving and the people I work with are very nice.  The housing situation, with a LOT of help from my parents, might be fixed soon.  The child care situation is working out with some possible back ups. With Bailey AND Jennifer taking my children I would hope it would keep them from getting burned out.  The kids can be rough on people.  Just drive you NUTS some days!

Things are falling into place.  I think Bailey and her Grandfather have adopted us and to be honest I like that.  Being out here and knowing NO ONE makes me worried.  If something happens to me what would happen to the children?  Or me?  It is nice to know someone would be able to check on me.   : )

Things Might Be Falling Into Place

Things seem to be starting to fall in place.  Bailey is handling the children well.  I got several calls during the day.  The children were not feeling well today so I talked to them a few times.  I was doing well at work but I am waiting to computer access still.  

I found a house in the Gilbert area.  It is a SUCH a nice house.  It is managed by a property company so they want to do a credit check.  I KNOW I would not qualify but I think my dad will help me.  Got to find a way to get the money for the deposit.  There is A LOT of hurdles to get through but pray I can make it work!  If I can this would be an AMAZING house for us!

Sorry for the SHORT post but I have to get up at 4:30am and it is all most eleven at night now.  I HAVE to get some sleep tonight!  I promise I will wrote a post on ALL I have been up to for the last few days!  It is good for the most part!  

Causing a Ruckus on Facebook!

Well my weekend was interesting!  How was yours?

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I have been on Facebook since April 2009 and overall I have enjoyed it.  I HATE when FB changes things around but otherwise I am happy.  I have been able to meet LOTS of WONDERFUL women from across the country with problems similar to mine.  Problems like having multiples, having multiples with special needs, special needs children who are not multiples or are otherwise "normal" and MANY others!  The other day one of the MOMs (Mothers of Multiples) I know added me to a multiples group on FB.  OMG, that set off the biggest crazy thing I had EVER experienced!  I actually left the FB multiples group in tears.  I was attacked in the group and out right called a fake.  I was accused of NOT having my multiple kiddos!

I had NEVER had that happen before.  I was told my story was wrong, James could not have come home when I said he did and not at the weight he did.  Then I was told I was just trolling for money and to get attention.  This woman did not know me nor all that I had been through.  She had determined I was a faker  and attacked me verbally in the room.  After getting upset because I had given access to a photo album with pictures of my children from birth to age two, agreed to meet a local MOM in the group AND was willing to accept a friend request where one can videos and pictures of my children over the years I was STILL attacked anyways!

A couple of the MOMs I knew on FB before I was added to that group signed into the social group and saw what happened.  They came to my defense but I had all ready left.  Seriously, I was in tears!  My life has been SO stressful at this point that the verbal attack I had endured that night sent me over the edge.  James was even concerned asking me why I was sad!  He is SUCH a sweet boy!  I told him some ladies had been mean to mommy on the computer but I am much better now.  He gave me a kiss.  Made my heart melt!  About another ten minutes later I had a couple of the MOMs I know along with an administrator to the group say they were sorry for what happened and asked me to come back.  That the woman who attacked me had left the group.  So I agreed to come back.  What a CRAZY experience! So far the other women the group have been nice and supportive but I have to say it is a carzy group in there.  Maybe this is what having multiples does to a woman?  What does that say about ME?  LOL

Recent picture of the children

It did get me to thinking though.  Why did I not remember the details of the babies birth, when they got home or really any other information until they got to be about two.  Looking back now I realize that I was in shock after Martha had died, then there was the risk Joseph could die at any minute and I was not getting NEAR enough sleep!  I did keep some logs of the babies details.  John was in charge of that sort of stuff but I wanted a record for myself so I had a log.  It was on a computer my oldest son used.  He loved playing multi-player games online.  The game he was playing was riddled with viruses.  This was when the kids were about a year old.  So I started a new log and the kids were getting Early Intervention services.  We started to go and see more doctors.  I was telling everyone (husband, therapists and doctors) that something was wrong with the children but I was being dismissed.  They were all saying the kids would "catch up" by their third birthday.  I knew they were wrong but no one would really listen.  I spent LONG hours at my computer, when I should have been sleeping, trying to figure out what was wrong!   After the second computer crash and the loss of SO much data that I told my oldest he was banned from my computers and I started my blog online.  I did not want to lose any more information!  The first two years was so full of emotional pain, drama and lack of sleep that I don't try hard to remember what had happened.  Even now, each year, I start a new 3 inch three ring binder to hold Joseph's medical and school information.  So far we fill that EACH year.  I have a lot to worry about without worrying if I remember all the details from the first days of their birth!

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Over the long weekend I spent some time trying to look for a place to live.  I am afraid we will be stuck at the hotel for a bit.  I want to make sure I find the right thing AND I have not been without the children.  It is hard driving around with them in the back being impatient.  Then I do not want to scare people aware by seeing my cranky children with me...lol.  I am looking for something in the Gilbert, East Mesa, East Tempe and South Scottsdale areas.  So I have a corridor that I am looking at but I need to get out without the children.

My ad on Craigslist was rather successful.  The ad has been part of the reason I have held off on posting so the ad would not be "lost" on my board.  I had several people apply. A few I was able to dismiss right away.  Others I was interested in and scheduled for an interview.  I had people as young as 18 apply and I don't think anyone was over 24.  I had BIG doubts about the people being so young and handling three 4 year olds who are disabled but I was pleasantly surprised by some of the applicants!  So far I am highly encouraged!  I recently found out my mother is not coming out here.  I was thinking she was going to watch my children for me my first week at work.  So I thought I would have until October 22nd to make a decision on someone to watch the children.  With my mother not coming I should have started the interviewing process LAST week.  I am in a hurry and MUST hire someone RIGHT away so I can start work on Monday!

This is the last thing I have to say in this long post...lol.  Right before I was going to publish this I get a call from the front desk of my hotel.  I was told someone had dropped off a care package for me and I needed to come and get it since she did not have any way of storing it.  The front desk lady said a woman and her two children came in and dropped off a bag of groceries.  Tina, the front desk manager, said the woman was very nice and asked if she knew me.  The lady said she did not but she had heard things over the internet and she wanted to drop this off for me.  You have NO idea how many times in my life I have heard people say they would help me or do something for me and rarely does anyone follow through. I am sorry but that has been my experience.  :(  You have NO idea how nice it was for me to receive such a wonderful gift and a sweet card.  I have been feeling down and lonely.  It is tough moving to a new city by myself with the children in tow and I know NO one and have no family here.  So whoever you are...Thank You!

The card says...
We hope this finds you in a time of need and can help to lighten your burdens! Know that you are though of and loved!  Friendly Neighbors